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My Girlfriends

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The birthday combo. Maite and I decided to combine our birthdays.  Over the past weekend I had the pleasure and opportunity of celebrating my birthday with some of my closest friends. It was bey ond epic. We hadn’t seen each other since my late husband’s funeral and that was over 21 months ago. I won’t lie, some of my friendships with these women were tested and one in particular has been tested more than several times.  What I appreciate the most is the maturity these women possess. They always reach out to straighten things out. To me, that is love. A beautiful gift. Dinner time. The ladies cooked amazingly delicious food. Keke. The most intelligent yet artistic person I've ever met. A little pout never hurt nobody. Okay. Nthabi is the fire in our friendship. A real feminist. Snaps while we waited for the 'Afican time' guests lol. Marencia. Our mama bear. So protective and fierce, a giver too. Look h

Grace!

How we forget who our father really is! How we try to handle it or figure it out! When all He says is Psalm 55v22 Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken . How can the author of everything, absolutely everything let us fall? Would he put up his word, breathe on it and then just let it all go in vain?   Hebrews 4v12 For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart . Surely not! Oh Lord thank you, that you remain true to me even when I am not worthy, for being there, for making plans for my life, for giving your life on the cross so that I can live a life full of life. John 10v10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life,

Suffer little unforgiving heart…

We all know the bible verse “… A joyful heart is good medicine, But a broken spirit dries up the bones” (Prov 17v22) but do we really understand it. There was a time I hated hearing it, I was in so much pain and hurt. I didn’t want anything but to just recount and replay in my head all that happened to me. All the wrongs that were done to me were somehow precious to me. I was very young and bitter. Saddest thing is, the people who hurt me couldn’t have cared less if I was alive or dead. And because they didn’t care, I started feeling less and less important; but more and more loving the thought of being a victim. As time went, I realised that I was watching my life pass me by. I was wasting time being consumed in hatred and anger. While my peers were going for their dreams, I was sobbing every day. I wanted to be happy, cheerful and ambitious again, but it was so foreign to me. So I started doing things differently… 1.        I began by giving myself permission

Maturity comes from experience.

Maturity isn’t just about how old one is. It’s a lot of processes that one has gone through to certify them matured. For instance one may have a great job with amazing benefits, but because they haven’t had any life lessons on money they might spend their earnings anyhow. But one who has had a fair share of either poverty or financial strain will spend their earnings different. Maturity comes from experience . So why then are we quick to judge those who seem to be slow in grasping life. I mean we also didn’t know better until it happened to us. And did we even ask for “life changing experiences” to happen to us? No we didn’t; it just happened and we were changed by them. It’s about awareness; calmly seeking understanding and as a result we become mature. We all know life is the best teacher; but if life has taught others about certain things/experiences yet, how then do you judge? For a girl who has had it all knows different to a girl who has never had it. Sh

Self relation – calming things down and getting myself ready emotionally for new year of study.

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Once you get into a festive season mood, you don't want it to end. But reality is that it will end, and eventually we all need to get back into our reality shoes. One of the hardest thing to do is to prepare your mind for another long year of studies emotionaly. Here are tips on calming things down and getting ready emotionally for a new year of study Mrs. Maite Shikwambani - Love Advice Columnist - Ambition Magazine. 1. Clean up. New year's day passed.Festive season is over. It's now time to clean up. Take the christmas tree and deco out of your living room. Clean up all the crack fires out of the yard. Put away the present wrappers and christmas cards somewhere nicely. Anything to do with christmas and new year put it away just to mentally get out of the festive spirit. 2.Think and and say positive things. You say one thing long enough you get to a point where you end up believing it. Words are powerful. Talk about what a great year it will be. Pray about it

Loving yourself.

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Keke Motaung: Assistant Editor - Ambition Magazine. I recently participated in a beauty pageant and it’s amazing how much I learnt from being surrounded by eleven girls in one room for almost 24 hours. Loving yourself first goes a  long way .Truth be told-women have a hard time accepting themselves for who they are especially if they are faced with someone who seems to be oozing with confidence, self-love, what seems like the perfect outfit, hairstyle or whatever else we women need to “qualify” for perfect womanhood. All of us in that room were there to compete yet we put on a smile and deviously pretended we want to share combs, and make up and all else when in actual fact we were thinking about who looks perfect and who would be most likely to take the crown .well for most it was pretence even if for some it was genuine kindness. Being around women as or possibly more  gorgeous, talented and educated than yourself for more than just a few hours and behaving to be utterly a

THE STRENGTH TO GO ON...

The sadest truth is that thousands of women are living with abuse . By living , I mean they literally can’t be away from it. It’s not because they don’t want to be free from it, but because they are scared they are not strong enough. It’s quite easy to sit on other side of the fence and judge, not knowing the going ons inside that lead to what we see. As a young woman who survived sexual abuse and stalking, i was made to believe that indeed it was my fault. I had questions in my head with no single answer to them. Although my family and friends thought I was ok, I was still dissapointed at myself, replaying the nigt in my head over and over again, thinking of things I should have done to avoid the playout. It was when I met this amazing woman from Pretoria who made me realise these important facts: -        No person askes to be abused, we are all equal and therefore mutual respect is the way we should live. -        Abusers of any kind pick they vactims very well, for i